You might be thinking if you are still going to make new year resolutions this year 2020. Like, I want to wake up early. I need to start doing exercise. The most popular one is, I want to save up money! And, etc. But decided to call it quits this year! Because none of them happened. The reason why most of your resolutions failed is that it is really part of the game. Yes, Failure is part of the New Year Resolution game!
Are you wondering why your 2019 goals or new year resolutions might have failed? You probably started doing them in the first couple of months of the year but ended up not completing them. The key to achieving success in your goals is admitting that failure is part of the game. If you failed that means you were trying. If you haven’t failed that means, you haven’t tried at all. If you keep on failing over and over again, it is because you keep on trying and trying. But we have to learn from our mistakes at some point, so we can finally attain our goals.
One of the most important steps in setting up goals is verifying if they are good goals or bad goals. Every goal is different. It can either bring us closer to our dreams or not. There are also big goals and small goals. First, let’s define what Goal is. According to Business Dictionary: Goal – is An observable and measurable end result having one or more objectives to be achieved within a more or less fixed timeframe.
E.g. Saving up 10% of personal income to a savings account. – Emergency Fund
Objective: To save a certain amount of numbers by the end of the year. 10% X 12 mos
Fixed Time Frame: For how long will you commit to save 10% of your personal income? Is it for 2, 3 or 5 years?
Now let’s go to COMMON REASONS FOR NOT COMPLETING GOALS:
- Too big. If the goal is too big, oftentimes people get discouraged along the way. Most likely, they will say. This goal is not for me. It’s just too big to handle.
- Not Relevant. You’ll maybe say, I realized it’s not very important for me. Or, I just want to have the same goal as my best friend. Remember! Goals are personal.
- Unrealistic Goals. You want your goals achieved very fast.
- Impossible to Measure. Your goals are too general. I want to be happy in life.
Setting up Goals is fast and easy. All you just need is a pen, paper, and your time. If you are married, encourage your spouse to join you in building your goals together. In my case, my husband and I usually make our new year goals in the 1st month of the year. We make goals together using the SMART way. What does it mean by that? A SMART Goal stands for S =specific, M=measurable, A=achievable, R=relevant, & T=timebounded. That is what makes it easy to remember.
Let’s go into detail one by one:
S for specific. A specific goal is concise and clear. We need to have a specific goal in order to set our focus on. Albert Einstein once said that if you cannot explain your goal to a 6-yr old child. And have that child explained the goal to another 6-year old child. That means you are not being specific and concise on your goal.
Let’s give an example: One of the common resolutions we make in the new year is saving money. Instead of saying I want to save money this year. Declare, I will save 10% of my personal income every month to my other savings account. You have to be specific, how much you will save? How often will you save? and, Until when will you save.
M is for measurable. A goal that is measurable is trackable. We need to learn to track the progress of our goals. By doing that, we keep our motivation on fire.
Let’s have an example: If you will decide this year to lose certain amount of weight. That means to say, that you will commit to doing exercise regularly. If you are committed, you will give your 100% best to not only perform the goal. But very importantly, to track your progress frequently. You might need a notebook, a pen, and your smartphone to jot down and track the improvement.
A is achievable. Many of us fall into the trap of making huge goals that are not possible. So instead of actually setting goals that are impossible. Make ones that are challenging, yet something you can achieve.
Let’s give an example: When I was younger like 18, it’s always a dream to travel to different places. Whenever it’s a new year, I would start writing my goals. I remember one of them I wrote was, I want to travel around the world. How many of you agree? That was not a specific and measurable goal. And definitely, not an achievable goal. Instead of saying, I want to travel. Declare, I will visit places I have never been to before. Then, bullet. Write down, the exact places you wish to visit. For example, – Bangkok, Thailand, -Singapore. If you don’t have so much means, then start with local places where you live.
R is for relevant. Your goal has to be very important for you and your objective. If your goal is not related and important to your overall life, then it is not relevant to you and therefore, it is not going to happen.
T is Time bounded. Smart goals are the ones that have a target time attach to them. Just what a popular quote says, “A goal without a timeline is just a dream”. The great thing about putting a Timeframe on our goals is that it keeps us stay focus on our intentions. Thus, the likelihood of achieving goals is very high.
Now that we know how to make SMART goals. Let’s move on to Crushing our goals. Here are my suggestions that you might want to consider:
- I believe that goals that are not in writing(or put on paper) are just merely wishes. That’s why pen and paper are our best friends when it comes to setting goals. Use whatever resources you have. I personally like to use Google Calendar as my online agenda planner. I love that I can share events, activities, etc. privately to my family, friends, and colleagues.
- We need to have GRIT if we want to attain success on our goals. According to Angela Lee Duckworth on one of her TED Talks, “Grit is passion and perseverance for very long term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future day in day out. Not just for the week. Not just for months, but for years. And working really hard to make that future a reality.”
- The timing in setting up goals doesn’t really matter. You don’t have to wait for January 1st to start planning your life. You can do it at any time, the moment you realize, there needs to be a change.
- Goal setting is not a sprint. The purpose of making them is to develop a habit that will potentially change your life for the better. Even if it’s just a simple goal like waking up earlier at 5 o’clock in the morning, it can give a massive impact on your future.
- Before we get to the point where our body no longer needs to be forced to do something new or Auto-pilot mode. We need to pass the most difficult stage when initiating our goals and that’s usually the 1st month or 30-days. So to overcome that, here are my tips. Go to your calendar and make to-do lists for 30 days to accomplish a specific goal. You can also make use of Post Its or cards to remind you of your task and things to do. Put them on your office desk, in your closet, in your kitchen or anywhere in the house where you can see them, to make sure you don’t miss a single assignment that’s vital in developing a habit.
So these are my thoughts and experiences with New Year Resolutions. I hope you learn something new today that will help you kickstart your 2020 with loads of positivity and faith. If others can do it, I’m doing it, I’m sure you can as well. Honestly, I was not the smartest student in the class. I was probably the least confident person at school. But, I saw an opportunity to change and improve myself for the better. And I just keep on trying, and trying, and learning. So, I’m sure you can too! If you are on the journey of setting up your resolutions or goals and trying to figure out how to stick with them and achieve them, let me know in the comment sections below. I would love to hear what your goals are for 2020.